Years ago, I remember watching an episode of the Kardashians where Kris Jenner was in her gorgeous closet carefully cleaning her shoes. I was surprised at the level of care she put into it when she had the money to easily replace her entire wardrobe.
I later learned that affluent people take incredibly good care of their possessions. It doesn’t matter whether they can afford the 10 extra Louboutins, they’ll still clean and store their shoes properly. The same goes for handbags. It’s important to keep them clean and store them in their dust bags. A woman who makes the effort to take care of her belongings usually makes the same effort to take care of herself.
Beauty and immaculate grooming is not an accident.
“I am everything that I desire and work to be “
The most high-value women, the ones who are always put together look that way because they make an effort.
▸ Their hair is always full and shiny. They go for elegant hairstyles and make sure to get blowouts regularly as well as take care of any extensions or wigs they have.
▸ Their makeup is flawless. They take time to learn what works best for them by consulting professionals. They take time to apply their makeup to the best standard.
▸ Their skin is also flawless because they take time to consult a dermatologist and stick to a skincare regimen. They never skimp on quality products, too.
▸ Their bodies are slim and toned because they get up early and go to the gym to create the body of their dreams. They make an effort to refuse foods that don’t benefit their body goals.
▸ Their clothes look fresh, crisp and new because they purchase quality items and actually take care of them. Clothes are always folded and put away. They always wear ironed clothes and treat the fabrics the right way.
▸ Their shoes are unscuffed and shiny because they’re cleaned regularly. When the heel starts to show wear they immediately take it in. They are stored on an appropriate shoe rack or shelf and not tossed on top of each other in a closet.
▸ In conversation, they are charming, witty and knowledgeable because they have made the effort to learn about many topics, especially topics in line with affluence.
▸ Their associations are a group of equally well put together, successful people who don’t waste time on gossiping and low end activities.
Being this classy woman means you have to upgrade your entire self, rather than just the things you own. Level up your efforts and adopt habits of a high-value woman! Nothing is by chance. it’s all specific and directed effort, and it all begins with believing that you deserve better.
Decide that you deserve it
“Why bother, no one will see me!” This is what I used to tell myself when I was sitting at home looking bummy, or if I was making a quick errand run and was just too lazy to try.
But then I realized “I will see me!” And don’t I deserve to see myself looking amazing? Why do I make the effort to pull myself together when I know I’ll be seen but not otherwise? I’ll doll up so that my boyfriend doesn’t have to look at a mess but not if I’m going to be home alone. Am I not more important than that?
I also had someone say to me once, “I don’t care if people judge me by how I look. Their judgements don’t make me”. Fair enough. But the truth is when you carry yourself messy, dis-shelved or simply not at your best, whether conscious or not, you judge yourself. Like when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and think “Ugh, I look a mess”. It’s not about who will see you, or who will judge you, it’s about you.
Decide that you deserve better. The first step is to believe that you deserve to look amazing, at all times. You deserve to put the effort into yourself foryourself! You’ll never catch the high value lady looking disheveled and a mess. Her efforts come from a place of personal desire and self respect and you deserve as much. Being a high value woman means you place a high value on yourself. So again, decide that you deserve better and make the effort.
Comfort is the enemy of success
Comfort is the enemy of success
I’ve never been overweight. As a matter of fact I’ve always had a body that got many compliments. As I got older I put a little weight on, but at a size 4 I was still not overweight but I was also not in what I felt was my optimal state. Even still, for years, while not loving the way my body looked, I did nothing. Why? Because to me, I still looked ok, I got the compliments etc. I wasn’t totally happy with it, but I was comfortable.
But the truth about comfort is that it’s actually just a steady state of mediocrity. When you’re comfortable, you make excuses for the unhappy moments or situations, you can talk yourself into things being “fine”. But do you want to live a life that is fine or to be the best version of yourself? Then you need to get uncomfortable.
Change comes from a place of discomfort with where you are currently, so unless you cultivate a burning desire for some sort of change or more in your life, you’ll never get uncomfortable enough to truly drive change. I had to decide that I deserved more than comfortable. More than mediocre.
It’s easy to just do nothing and stay stagnant in “fine” but to truly level up and live your best life as you’re best self, you need to really make the conscious effort to change your mind and decide that this life is not” fine”, you’re not comfortable and you MUST have better. It won’t happen on it’s own, expecting it to is accepting mediocrity. You must make it a daily conscious effort, through visuals of what you want and affirmations. Talk yourself out of mediocrity and into greatness. Be the best version of yourself.
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