If you’re planning on socializing in high society, you probably want to improve your social and dining etiquette so that you act accordingly. I believe having manners and practicing good etiquette is something everyone should adopt, regardless of class and status. Some things are just common courtesy.
Going to elegant places will require some extra thought and preparation. Remember the movie “Pretty Woman” and how she had to learn it the hard way? I’m sure you don’t want to experience the same and instead want to be perceived as a classy, elegant woman. Attracting the right kind of attention is important after all, but how do you conduct yourself as a sophisticated lady?
Basic Etiquette Principles:
Work on your posture! Imitate how the elegant ladies in the 1950’s carried themselves. Sit with your back straight and walk gracefully. I’ve had men compliment my posture many times. They actually pay more attention to it than we think!
Mind your language and volume
Nobody wants to listen to swearing or slang, especially if someone is almost shouting when trying to speak. It’s annoying and extremely rude.
Be polite to everyone
Be grateful and thank people as often as you can. This includes staff too. Never be arrogant and always appreciate what they’re doing for you. A “thank you” with a genuine smile can mean so much to someone and it doesn’t require much effort either.
Smile and send out positive energy
Being arrogant, rude and looking bored is a sign of bad manners. Even when you’re stuck with someone who is boring you to bits, it’s not polite to show your boredom. Excuse yourself with a smile and end the meeting, but never throw a drink in someone’s face. How would you feel if that was done to you?
Do not have monologues
Only talking about yourself and not including anyone else in the conversation is very rude. Be interested in other people by asking questions. You can share your stories every once in a while, but just not all the time.
One of the most disrespectful things you can do is not valuing other people’s time by being late. It is very rude. Once in a while is understandable, as they are circumstances that can delay us, but making it a habit is not cool. Learn time management!
Always bring a gift
If you’re a guest and have been invited to someone’s house, you should always bring a gift even on a casual gathering. Maybe a bottle of wine or a dessert?
Proper Dining Etiquette
This is how an elegant lady behaves at the dinner table:
- Never put your elbows on the table.
- Never freshen up your make-up. Go to the bathroom, even if you just need to touch up your lipgloss.
- Never speak with you mouth full, chew with your mouth open or make noise when you eat.
- Always turn away from the table when you need to sneeze or cough, and make sure to excuse yourself.
- Do not use your own when taking butter that is shared on a table.
- Bones and skin should be placed discretely in your napkin and never on the side of your plate.
- If you find a hair in your food, don’t make a big deal publicly. Discretely inform the waiter.
- Eat your food without making a mess and eat slowly.
- Always drink from the same spot of your glass so don’t end up with lip marks all over.
- Never pick your teeth at the table. Go to the bathroom if something is stuck.
- Never introduce unpleasant topics in conversation.
- Wait until everyone has been served before you start eating and let the host gesture you to eat before you dig in.
- Never lean or stretch for something in front of a person. Instead, ask politely for them to pass it over.
- Break small pieces from your bread and eat it instead of putting the entire roll in your mouth. This looks more elegant, is easier to eat and is less messy.
- Mobiles, keys and lipgloss should not be on the table. Checking your phone often shows bad manners. Put it away during dinner.
- When you are asking for something, use “may I have” instead of “can I have”
- Check discretely if you have something in your teeth after each meal, preferably in the bathroom.
- Never wave over a waiter or shout to be heard. Always say “excuse me”.
- Always thank the host for the dinner even if you didn’t enjoy the food. Smile and be polite!
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